Hi there!
What a day!!!
I had a busy day for sure ..im even trying to squeeze in sometime to blog as usual as im working on my writing skills.
I was just thinking early in the day ..that what really gives people a right to think that they have a control over ones life. Is it that you have incouraged them to do that.
As individuals I believe we are molded and made in different ways and when people expect that you will change to there liking that is what I refer is controling.
A good example im not a loud person by nature , what really make you think that you will turn me to a loud person.
I like simple life , what do you think that you will do to change me to that flamboyant being you fancy me to become.
All I can say for today people , please lets grow up and let people be who they are and who they are meant to be.
And guess what I will love you and respect you for that.
Kisses
Wednesday, July 25, 2012
Monday, July 23, 2012
What a weekend that was!
Today is one of those days that you actuallty feel like you are nott making progress. Well im not.
Anyway lets stop complaining and focus on the blessings of the lord above.
I had a wonderful weekend other than getting sick in the middle of last week.
im recovering nicely and im totally happy with the progress.
I attended couple of friends wedding and sendoff party and in both events I had a blast other than I had to shattle between events as both events were happening on the same day.
Spent my sunday with my toto who is supposedly having exams this week , can you imagine a 4 years old boy having an exam.
We'll we did couple of letter works and i was happy with the progress and im sure he will so make me proud today as he begin his exams.
Thursday, July 12, 2012
LETTER TO MYSELF
Dear Nandi
Today I know you are very lost and you actually don’t know what to do. But what I can tell you; all will sort itself out. You are a good person...Strong and very courageous and believe me God is with you.
All I’m asking you to do today my dear, just put up that smile and raise those wide shoulders of yours stand tall and walk with you head high. You know why, because you are blessed with this life, you have one good and loving friend or maybe two, loving family and a job to put that plate of food on the table.
You are taking your children to the best school this country and Africa has to offer and that is BIG. You will be blessed for that.
Not all are able to do the wonderful things that you are doing. You stand by your friends, you don’t judge and guess what I doubt that people are offering half the love you are giving them; but you know that you love you and that is powerful.
So Nandi wipe up those tears and get moving as I know you can and you will.
I love you.
XOXO
FAMILY BOND
Hi y'all
Hope all of you are having a wonderful week so far. Mine has been hectic…With lots of up and down but in the end all is well and I’m greatful.
Today I want us to reflect on family, I grew up in a family of four a brother and two sisters. In my family I’m a last born. I grew up in a very happy home where we spent a lot of time together, eating together sharing our life and future dreams.
We always ate together sharing the same plate and using our hands, which always way a joy.
When I reflect this at this time and age I think we are missing a lot now days, as families are becoming apart because of what I may say life pressure.
I remember my two sisters who have already passed on May God rest there soul in peace. My sisters and I were very close; as a last born I used to be sent around to the shops to buy things be bread or a match box.
Now days we have house helpers who do almost everything for our kids. Of course I’m not against that; as long as much as our children are enjoying the life of having all put together for them, it is nice for them to be self reliant. We all know in this world we are all passing. Therefore we need to make sure our kids are able to be people of their own when God calls us.
My late mother was very good at that. She taught me all that I know about life. She taught me hardworking, respect, cooking etc. I was raised by a single mother and I give her a credit for raising 4 strong children of whom we grow up to love her so much. My mother always tried her best to give us the best life she could at that time and instilled strong family values in us.
At our home at any given time there were 3 or 4 members of extended family staying with us and at home we were all treated equal. This includes doing house chores and sharing of whatever God has provided for us on that day.
To date my brother and I are very close and whenever we have time, we will sit and have a good laugh talking about our mother and our late sisters; remembering old good days. My brother is a very good story teller and every time we meet; he will sure make me laugh so hard.
What I think we are losing now a days is the sense of closeness and not being able to be in touch with each other. And with TV's now days the family members of the same house will not have the privilege of sharing a good conversation as each one is swamped in a so called today's world entertainment. I call it a privilege because it is a rare thing to find.
The family not being able to share meals together let alone a plate as in a modern world each one will use their own plate which is excellent.
With all this happening you find that it is very difficult for people to know each other. As human we grow everyday and if you miss a moment of growth of a member of your family you might actually think that you are not staying with the same people you use to know.
The challenge I want us to give ourselves today is, how we are going to try not to lose each other in a family. In a family where we spend time asking each other on what’s for food on a text, or when a child wants to go out with his or her friends asks you through text. Do we think that is okay? Personally I don’t, I grow up seeing family stay together, share a good laugh and daily experience as that’s the ways we engage each other in a life journey.
What is your old family memory that you like to share??
Have a good one
Love
Hope all of you are having a wonderful week so far. Mine has been hectic…With lots of up and down but in the end all is well and I’m greatful.
Today I want us to reflect on family, I grew up in a family of four a brother and two sisters. In my family I’m a last born. I grew up in a very happy home where we spent a lot of time together, eating together sharing our life and future dreams.
We always ate together sharing the same plate and using our hands, which always way a joy.
When I reflect this at this time and age I think we are missing a lot now days, as families are becoming apart because of what I may say life pressure.
I remember my two sisters who have already passed on May God rest there soul in peace. My sisters and I were very close; as a last born I used to be sent around to the shops to buy things be bread or a match box.
Now days we have house helpers who do almost everything for our kids. Of course I’m not against that; as long as much as our children are enjoying the life of having all put together for them, it is nice for them to be self reliant. We all know in this world we are all passing. Therefore we need to make sure our kids are able to be people of their own when God calls us.
My late mother was very good at that. She taught me all that I know about life. She taught me hardworking, respect, cooking etc. I was raised by a single mother and I give her a credit for raising 4 strong children of whom we grow up to love her so much. My mother always tried her best to give us the best life she could at that time and instilled strong family values in us.
At our home at any given time there were 3 or 4 members of extended family staying with us and at home we were all treated equal. This includes doing house chores and sharing of whatever God has provided for us on that day.
To date my brother and I are very close and whenever we have time, we will sit and have a good laugh talking about our mother and our late sisters; remembering old good days. My brother is a very good story teller and every time we meet; he will sure make me laugh so hard.
What I think we are losing now a days is the sense of closeness and not being able to be in touch with each other. And with TV's now days the family members of the same house will not have the privilege of sharing a good conversation as each one is swamped in a so called today's world entertainment. I call it a privilege because it is a rare thing to find.
The family not being able to share meals together let alone a plate as in a modern world each one will use their own plate which is excellent.
With all this happening you find that it is very difficult for people to know each other. As human we grow everyday and if you miss a moment of growth of a member of your family you might actually think that you are not staying with the same people you use to know.
The challenge I want us to give ourselves today is, how we are going to try not to lose each other in a family. In a family where we spend time asking each other on what’s for food on a text, or when a child wants to go out with his or her friends asks you through text. Do we think that is okay? Personally I don’t, I grow up seeing family stay together, share a good laugh and daily experience as that’s the ways we engage each other in a life journey.
What is your old family memory that you like to share??
Have a good one
Love
Monday, July 9, 2012
CRY SMILE LAUGH
Hi Y'all
I hope you all had a wonderful weekend; I had a good one with lots of memorable events that worth’s to be appreciated. I cried, I smiled, and I laughed …All tears and laugh of Joy.
I got a chance to rediscover myself and also a chance to re-think of my life and moreover to have a deeper meaning of my life and purpose to this planet. Always I try to be as conscious and content as possible; which allowed me to be aware of my surroundings and as well as people around me. This included being present when I talk to people that I personally care the most and put myself in their shoes.
This weekend, a close friend of mine really gave a new meaning of humanity and a meaning of friendship. A friend, who was not quick to make the conclusion of my story, instead listened while trying to make sense of my story and situation. And guess what, this is what my friend said “you have the support from me, if you need any help please shout any time”. I was humbled by this statement and truly this statement made me stronger.
At the same time I had a moment with my partner and I was sharing with him my fears and he made a statement that really stood in my head. This is what he said “we have each other, will get through this”. What a powerful and a strong statement which made me a better person and put me at peace that someone has got my back.
With all this, I took some time to really think about FRIENDSHIP
I have had so many people that I will not really call them friends but more of acquaintances; people that I know them through work or through friends. But we have never had a heart to heart or a chance to really take time to know each other.
As I’m in a journey of trying to understand and get a real meaning of who are real friends and what friends are for in a first place I will give my version of understanding.
I think friend don’t judge that will be the first thing I will be looking in friend, we must have some sort of commonality as of having some similarities in terms of our liking; also the big one for me is a friend must be able to tell me as it is “ call a spade a spade”. I don’t need a friend who will be sugar coating things.
One of the reasons I don’t have many friends is that I have come across many who are not real and who always wanted me to fit in their liking or profile if you may like. And sometime they have some sort of expectation in terms of gain and once they get what they are looking for, they will get out of your life really fast.
Friendship is not about changing each other it’s about learning to adjust and accommodate each other; I have been applying the same matrix with few friends that I have.
I think friends should be able to stay strong for each other and encourage each other when required.
Again I can’t talk about friendship without mentioning tolerance – if your friends are not letting you be you and allowing you to be silly and crazy sometime, maybe is time to look for some new friends.
What have your friends done for you OR said to you that you this it is Amazing?
Wishing you a blessed WEEK
XOXO
Note
As per Google friends mean a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations.
Friendship means, the emotions or conduct of friends; the state of being friends or A relationship between friends.
Thursday, July 5, 2012
JUST THINKING ALOUD
One of my first posts was on whether partners should or should not look at each other’s phone.
This debate came across when a friend of mine complained that his partner likes looking at his mobile phone.
That got me really thinking, when we look at our partners phones more often than not we expect to find something bad. We are looking for something to fight for …something to hold our partners against it for the rest of their lives. Therefore when all this start personally I will sense that there is definitely a trust issue. One must have given one a reason to do that or just because one is insecure therefore you always figure that there must be someone out there that chances are your partner is busy with. Or maybe one of your friends advised you to keep your eyes open and be a watchdog to your partner. And at that time we hardly think as what we might find might somehow break the partnership / relationship.
So that got me thinking as busy as the partners are busy on looking at each other’s phones what about the amount of people I/we refer as dear, luv, darling, sweetheart, mchumba and suppose my partner misunderstood all that what will happen exactly.
In today’s world people call each other names that do not mean exactly what is supposed to mean, here I refer to names I mentioned above.
I’m sure if you take a chance and look at your partner's phone chances are you will find at least one person referred as dear, luv etc
.
This is very common in corporate office whereby men will call ladies dear, sweetie ...and vis a vis and most of the time these names come across when one is asking for a favour or just because they are best of colleagues. This is as common as hugs)); there is so much hugging going on now a day’s comparing to let’s say 10 years ago. Back in the days hugs were mainly used for consolation or as sign of love and appreciation. I’m not anyhow against ((hugging)) don’t get me wrong, I love hugs ((smile)).
I’m just thinking aloud here, as close and as open minded people are becoming should really one be doubted or will that be enough to raise eyebrows and cause a mistrust issues in a relationship just by calling a colleague darling or sweetie in person or by mere sms /bbm or whatsapp or maybe be by hugging someone.
Just thinking aloud!!
Which names do you use to your friends / colleagues other than their real names (wink))???
Follow me on twitter @BrandNandi
This debate came across when a friend of mine complained that his partner likes looking at his mobile phone.
That got me really thinking, when we look at our partners phones more often than not we expect to find something bad. We are looking for something to fight for …something to hold our partners against it for the rest of their lives. Therefore when all this start personally I will sense that there is definitely a trust issue. One must have given one a reason to do that or just because one is insecure therefore you always figure that there must be someone out there that chances are your partner is busy with. Or maybe one of your friends advised you to keep your eyes open and be a watchdog to your partner. And at that time we hardly think as what we might find might somehow break the partnership / relationship.
So that got me thinking as busy as the partners are busy on looking at each other’s phones what about the amount of people I/we refer as dear, luv, darling, sweetheart, mchumba and suppose my partner misunderstood all that what will happen exactly.
In today’s world people call each other names that do not mean exactly what is supposed to mean, here I refer to names I mentioned above.
I’m sure if you take a chance and look at your partner's phone chances are you will find at least one person referred as dear, luv etc
.
This is very common in corporate office whereby men will call ladies dear, sweetie ...and vis a vis and most of the time these names come across when one is asking for a favour or just because they are best of colleagues. This is as common as hugs)); there is so much hugging going on now a day’s comparing to let’s say 10 years ago. Back in the days hugs were mainly used for consolation or as sign of love and appreciation. I’m not anyhow against ((hugging)) don’t get me wrong, I love hugs ((smile)).
I’m just thinking aloud here, as close and as open minded people are becoming should really one be doubted or will that be enough to raise eyebrows and cause a mistrust issues in a relationship just by calling a colleague darling or sweetie in person or by mere sms /bbm or whatsapp or maybe be by hugging someone.
Just thinking aloud!!
Which names do you use to your friends / colleagues other than their real names (wink))???
Follow me on twitter @BrandNandi
THE lagoon SUNSET
One thing that I was very passionate about while I was at the Lazy Lagoon Island was the sunrise and the sunset. Watching the sun come up and going down was the best thing ever. Watching the sunset at the deck it was one thing I did religiously for the 4 days that I was there.
The beauty of the sunset is breathtaking. What strikes me the most is colour , the orangey and the red colours which I find very calming and relaxing. And when the sunset meets the ocean, the reflection that comes through the sea through my eyes...It is truly a beauty.
The beauty of the sunset is breathtaking. What strikes me the most is colour , the orangey and the red colours which I find very calming and relaxing. And when the sunset meets the ocean, the reflection that comes through the sea through my eyes...It is truly a beauty.
Breeze
Good Afternoon yo'all
I really need a pick me up today. Since I woke up in the morning I have been feeling really down.
I tried to hook up with friends as a way of finding a pick me up twist ... slowly I can feel that I'm getting back to normal.
Back to my lagoon piece ...Lazy lagoon was a breeze of a fresh air, the beach was to clean and water very cold in the morning and warm during the day.
I can’t think of a better place to compare with it at least in comparison to the places that i have been.
This is the place you can hear the sound of your feet, I mean a pin drop quite.
The network is hard to come by, and this gives you a chance to think and connect with yourself or with whoever or whatever you are trying to connect with.
I enjoyed morning walks with my partner and it was a long stretch for sure. As much as we severally attempted to reach the end of the road but we failed.
Our afternoon were always amazing as we used this time to read books and have healthy discussion about life before we have lunch which was always on point.
Afternoon nap was a mandatory as after a busy and lazy afternoon at that place, sleeping sounded like the best thing to do and we totally went for it.
Wednesday, July 4, 2012
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